We Can Help Shape How Our Children Remember the Pandemic — and Foster Their Future Happiness

first_imgWhat’s a desirable “normal” of the pandemic? For my kids — three teens — I want to minimize bitterness about the restrictions on our lives and maximize gratitude for our health and well-being. I hope for less frustration at being separated from friends and more pleasure at spending time with family. These emotions and attitudes not only lead to better mood today; they are also associated with happiness in the long term. Remembering “my Wilson High days” means constructing a story from episodes of that time. You can’t use all of them, so you pick episodes that fit with broader beliefs about yourself. For example, if you think you were “a good son” at 17, you’ll summarize high school with episodes showing that theme. … APS Member/Author: Daniel Willingham … Read the whole story: The New York Times More of our Members in the Media > How will these practices influence what my children recall decades from now? That goal sounds uncomplicated — happy kids should grow into adults with happy memories. But reminiscences aren’t a simple averaging of experience. I’m not out to manipulate my kids, but knowing how memory works helps me shape what my children will recall of 2020. A memory summarizing months or years, for example, “the pandemic” or “attending Wilson High School” is not the heading of a mental file containing details of that time. It’s an isolated fact. My kids won’t be in school full-time this fall, so, like most parents, I will be thinking about how to keep them occupied and content. But I’m also a memory researcher, and that makes me wonder how they will recall these odd times decades from now. Naturally, I hope those memories will be more pleasant than miserable. This desire for memories to seem logical is heightened when we relate them to others. People think of their life story as just that — a story — and so they tell a good one, filling gaps and editing out-of-place events as needed. We even edit individual episodes to make them more logical. For example, if a story about a restaurant visit doesn’t mention the patron ordering, people falsely remember that happening: If the customer ate, he must have ordered. The rich detail resides in episodes: memories of events that last hours, not months. Episodes like “trying out for basketball” or “taking the SAT” include mental images and sounds, as well as the feeling this happened to me.last_img read more

Cuxport increases tonnage by a third

first_imgThe largest port operator in Cuxhaven achieved an increase of more than 32.6 percent during the first quarter of 2010. According to a company statement, the rise in tonnage came mainly from project- and steel cargo, forest products as well as from the increased handling of new cars.The well-used transshipment and logistics centre for ro-ro cargoes, automobile logistics and steel, handled 375,665 tonnes of freight during the first three months of this year.Business was also brisk for the port operator in the steel import sector – some of this steel was destined for the local manufacturers of offshore wind power components.Overall, imports rose by 58.4 percent. Exports increased by 25.3 percent at the same time. Today the port is also developing into a specialist facility for the offshore wind energy sector and is equipped with a heavy load platform for the handling of bulky project loads. As an offshore base port, the operator also provides the necessary space and equipment for storage and pre-assembly of the huge machine parts involved. Located near planned offshore wind parks, Cuxport also provides suitable port capacity that can be used for offshore service and maintenance operations.last_img read more

‘Cityzens’ arrest – Former champs spoil Liverpool EPL celebration party with 4-0 win

first_imgMANCHESTER, England (AP):As they stepped on to the pitch, Liverpool’s players were given a guard of honour from Manchester City. It was the only time they looked like English Premier League (EPL) champions yesterday.“I think they drank a lot of beers in the last week,” City manager Pep Guardiola said.The dethroned champions made sure there was an abrupt comedown from the partying. A merciless attacking display sparked by City scorers Kevin De Bruyne, Raheem Sterling, and Phil Foden consigned Liverpool to a 4-0 loss exactly a week after their 30-year title drought ended.“They were quicker than us in mind – we lacked fluidity,” Liverpool manager Jürgen Klopp said. “Isn’t it nice another team can be champions when Man City play so well?”The slack defending and lack of sharpness from Liverpool were perhaps forgiveable from players who had spent the previous 31 rounds establishing an unprecedented 23-point lead to become England’s earliest champions.Such an emphatic loss is not how Liverpool wanted to close out such a memorable season, especially when there are still enough games to overhaul City’s record 100-point haul from 2017-18.Klopp wasn’t as downbeat as the result suggested.“I saw a brilliant attitude. I saw boys who were fighting with all their effort,” he said. “We didn’t behave like somebody who became champions a week ago.” A Night to Forget It was a night to forget for so many Liverpool players – particularly Joe Gomez, who dragged Raheem Sterling down to concede a penalty converted by Kevin De Bruyne in the 25th minute.“We tried to play football, taking risks,” Guardiola said, “because they are the best team I ever faced in my life with high pressing. It is incredible how fast they are, how quick they play.”De Bruyne and Phil Foden helped City stylishly waltz through Liverpool and show how the title can be reclaimed next season.Receiving a pass from Foden, Sterling took the ball past Gomez with left boot before using his right to knock in City’s second in the 35th minute. Sterling and Gomez reunited in an EPL match for the first time since Liverpool’s victory over City at Anfield in November that was followed the next day by a training camp fight while they were on England duty. Yesterday’s EPL results Sheffield United 3-1 TottenhamMan City 4-0 Liverpoollast_img read more